Are You For Divorce? You Need To Consider These
First off, I will like anyone seeking for divorce to read the following bible quotation: Luke 16:18, Mark 10:2-12, 1 Corinthians 7:39, Romans 7:2-3, Malachi 2:16 & Matthew 5:32.
To begin with, we have to see what Divorce actually mean.
According to Wikipedia, Divorce, also known as dissolution of marriage, is the process of terminating a marriage or marital union. Divorce usually entails the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country or state.
The rate at which newly married couples divorce in recent times is scary, thus there is urgent need to stop this ugly trend, for the future of our homes and society at large; if homes are destroyed, definitely the society in one way or the other will receive the heat(be in trouble).
Just take a look at it!
As we all know, It's not easy for a mother and father(living together) to raise kids(especially in recent times when the world is becoming more and more complex, and very demanding), let alone a single parent doing so. Child's upbringing is very tasking(in the general sense of the word), thus needs total efforts or commitments(time, advice, finance, etc) of both parents.
As we all know, It's not easy for a mother and father(living together) to raise kids(especially in recent times when the world is becoming more and more complex, and very demanding), let alone a single parent doing so. Child's upbringing is very tasking(in the general sense of the word), thus needs total efforts or commitments(time, advice, finance, etc) of both parents.
Ideally, children raised by both parents are better prepared for societal challenges than those raised by single parent. Morally, etc, kids(raised by single parent) tend to suffer some lacks, and might end up being notorious criminals which negatively effects the society(as a whole) big time.
Infidelity is one of the major causes of a lot of broken homes or divorce being seen in our society nowadays, and this societal hassle or disturbance tends to be specially with the guys; at least inside the ratio of 2:1 to the ladies. That is, if there are 3 infidels, 2 are men and 1 is woman.
To the Husband
My brother if you are seeing another lady aside your wife I will sincerely advise you to retrace your steps, beg your wife and God for forgiveness. And, if you're not seeing another female and you are being accused, try to prove to your accusers(your partner, etc) that you're not seeing anybody else apart from her.
There are many ways to prove your innocence; you need to stop keeping unnecessary late nights, drink at home(for those that like drinking outside), stop hiding or locking your phone(s) unnecessarily, cut the time spend on phone(unnecessary chatting, calls, etc) and spend more time(quality time) with your woman(I mean your wife) and kids. I think the above will help to diffuse the doubts and suspicions your partner may have on you
Divorce is by no means the best option for couples who are rightly married, specially young CHRISTIAN couples(who are still sexually lively), because bible makes us to understand that once you divorce, you won't marry anyone else until death do you two part.
Bitter kola doesn't taste as it sounds in the mouth; divorce is never as candy as it sounds.
Divorce usually has a lot of challenges associated with it.
You guys should consider the trauma your youngsters are going to pass through being raised by divorced dad and mum (it won't be easy or clean for them ooo).
Bitter kola doesn't taste as it sounds in the mouth; divorce is never as candy as it sounds.
Divorce usually has a lot of challenges associated with it.
You guys should consider the trauma your youngsters are going to pass through being raised by divorced dad and mum (it won't be easy or clean for them ooo).
It's in man's nature to value or price what he doesn't have(out of door ladies) than what he has(his spouse). But the TRUTH is that the outside woman may be suitable or sweet to you being your girlfriend, however maybe worst(when you carry or bring her in as a spouse) than your true or main wife.
Any female that dates a married man is likely to date several other men at your back(because it is material things she obviously wants). So don't be fooled, thinking that you are her all and all.
These ladies are slay queens that come to kill and bury cheaters; they will rake you financially whilst taking the pleasure or joy of your family away.
These ladies are slay queens that come to kill and bury cheaters; they will rake you financially whilst taking the pleasure or joy of your family away.
Before God, character(or whatever) of your wife should in no way be an excuse why you should be looking outside for another woman.
Marriage needs patience and prayer; every marital issue should be committed to God in prayer while you patiently wait for Him for solution. If we hurriedly take decisions and act upon them, we may regret it tomorrow.
Any lady that knows that a man is married and still date him, can never make a good wife; she is likely to date other men when you marry her.
And if you lose appetite on your wife and marry another lady, it's very likely that one day you will also lose appetite on the new lady and start looking for the 3rd, ànd so on.
Marriage needs patience and prayer; every marital issue should be committed to God in prayer while you patiently wait for Him for solution. If we hurriedly take decisions and act upon them, we may regret it tomorrow.
Any lady that knows that a man is married and still date him, can never make a good wife; she is likely to date other men when you marry her.
And if you lose appetite on your wife and marry another lady, it's very likely that one day you will also lose appetite on the new lady and start looking for the 3rd, ànd so on.
Men should be ready to face reality with their wives in the sense that, women by nature tend to lose form or shape(or figure 8, lolz) with time due to child bearing, etc.
These are facts men should consider and stop making some absurd demands from their wives(in comparison with younger or single ladies).
For instance, some men would want their wives to wear things that do not speak good of them(their spouses) as married persons, just for their personal satisfaction. This is as a result of copying other people's ways of life(acculturation) without considering the moral implications of our actions; everybody wants to belong or be seen.
Another problem is when men start watching adult movies("blue films"), wanting to practicalize what they watch whilst expecting their wives to act(sexually) like the porn stars.
Your wives are part of you; you should not bully, beat up or maltreat your wives. You should always try to do and speak lovely things to her, to keep the fire of true love(between you two) burning or always on.
These are facts men should consider and stop making some absurd demands from their wives(in comparison with younger or single ladies).
For instance, some men would want their wives to wear things that do not speak good of them(their spouses) as married persons, just for their personal satisfaction. This is as a result of copying other people's ways of life(acculturation) without considering the moral implications of our actions; everybody wants to belong or be seen.
Another problem is when men start watching adult movies("blue films"), wanting to practicalize what they watch whilst expecting their wives to act(sexually) like the porn stars.
Your wives are part of you; you should not bully, beat up or maltreat your wives. You should always try to do and speak lovely things to her, to keep the fire of true love(between you two) burning or always on.
We live in the world but shouldn't be ruled by things of the world.
We are like sojourners on earth; after here on earth we will gather before God & give account of everything we did on earth. So,we should consider God in all things we do on earth with the mind that it doesn't end here on earth.
Marriage is mainly for companionship and procreation, not for sexual satisfaction. Sex is very important in marriage but should not be taken so serious to the extend that we will start looking for it outside our marriages and careless of what will happen to our sacrament of matrimony afterwards.
We are like sojourners on earth; after here on earth we will gather before God & give account of everything we did on earth. So,we should consider God in all things we do on earth with the mind that it doesn't end here on earth.
Marriage is mainly for companionship and procreation, not for sexual satisfaction. Sex is very important in marriage but should not be taken so serious to the extend that we will start looking for it outside our marriages and careless of what will happen to our sacrament of matrimony afterwards.
Your wife loves you so so much, that's why she is fighting any person that try to take you(and your attention) away from her.
Please, go back to your wife and leave all these ladies that derive joy in putting asunder in what God has joined together.
Every man go through this hurdle or challenge, but the way you handle it may cause you your joy(family and friends) in life or preserve it.
Please, go back to your wife and leave all these ladies that derive joy in putting asunder in what God has joined together.
Every man go through this hurdle or challenge, but the way you handle it may cause you your joy(family and friends) in life or preserve it.
To the Wife
Wifey, anything that is bad should be condemned in its entirety. As am talking to the men, am at the same time talking or referring to you the wives, if you're the guilty one.
Importantly, the wives you should accord your husbands their due respect as the head of the family, irrespective of your general status in the society. God has made them the head, you can't take it away from them.
No matter what you think you have(beauty, education, naira, dollars, euros, pounds, gold, diamond, etc), you and those valuables belong to your man as long as he married you.
Also, prepare good meals for your men. Men generally do not play with their stomach and cherish good food. Do not create opportunity for them to say "I think I love madam so so person's soup, rice, etc. Once your food do not taste good, your man is prone to eat outside, and eating outside may subsequently throw up something ugly that can tear your some apart.
If you don't know how to cook, go and learn how to do so. You should not totally relinquish kitchen things to your housemaid(s). Even when your housemaid cooks, try to always do the serving to your husband whenever you are around. It enhances the bond between you and your man.
Always try to take care of your body. Keeping yourself neat is not costly or expensive as some think; you must not have thousands before you look good the way that will be appealing or attractive to your husband.
Take your bath 2 to 3 times daily, your hair shouldn't be oozing odour(keep it simple & neat). Look for some good but cheap perfumes and spread when necessary. Keep nails short and neat. If your husband likes longer nails, you can keep nails but make sure they are always neat. Try to look smart for your man. Also try to be romantic whenever you're with your husband; rigidity not allowed here, lol.
In summary, try to be modern or classic(for your husband) but not wasteful and wayward.
Importantly, the wives you should accord your husbands their due respect as the head of the family, irrespective of your general status in the society. God has made them the head, you can't take it away from them.
No matter what you think you have(beauty, education, naira, dollars, euros, pounds, gold, diamond, etc), you and those valuables belong to your man as long as he married you.
Also, prepare good meals for your men. Men generally do not play with their stomach and cherish good food. Do not create opportunity for them to say "I think I love madam so so person's soup, rice, etc. Once your food do not taste good, your man is prone to eat outside, and eating outside may subsequently throw up something ugly that can tear your some apart.
If you don't know how to cook, go and learn how to do so. You should not totally relinquish kitchen things to your housemaid(s). Even when your housemaid cooks, try to always do the serving to your husband whenever you are around. It enhances the bond between you and your man.
Always try to take care of your body. Keeping yourself neat is not costly or expensive as some think; you must not have thousands before you look good the way that will be appealing or attractive to your husband.
Take your bath 2 to 3 times daily, your hair shouldn't be oozing odour(keep it simple & neat). Look for some good but cheap perfumes and spread when necessary. Keep nails short and neat. If your husband likes longer nails, you can keep nails but make sure they are always neat. Try to look smart for your man. Also try to be romantic whenever you're with your husband; rigidity not allowed here, lol.
In summary, try to be modern or classic(for your husband) but not wasteful and wayward.
Conclusion
I will conclude by advising you couples that, as you came to the presence of God to take vow or oath of "for better for worse", you should always consult or run to or seek the face of God whenever you are being confronted by marital problems.
You shouldn't allow the marital challenges to throw you off balance to the extent of tearing your homes apart.
Nothing we can achieve by our power if not God. God who created heaven and earth is very able to profer solutions to all our troubles and preserve our marriage joys. He is bigger than all your troubles.
We should also try to exercise patience over our partners' limitations while constantly praying for positive changes, and general family progress.
Your children will never be happy being raised in a separated home(divorced parents), and this unhappiness may affect them in life; some children may hate to get married when grown, may transfer angers unnecessarily to partners due to their experiences with their parents, etc.
Please and please once more, divorce is not the ultimate or closing solution to marriage differences or distinctions. Couples should always seek for dialogues and be very much open to one another.
You shouldn't allow the marital challenges to throw you off balance to the extent of tearing your homes apart.
Nothing we can achieve by our power if not God. God who created heaven and earth is very able to profer solutions to all our troubles and preserve our marriage joys. He is bigger than all your troubles.
We should also try to exercise patience over our partners' limitations while constantly praying for positive changes, and general family progress.
Your children will never be happy being raised in a separated home(divorced parents), and this unhappiness may affect them in life; some children may hate to get married when grown, may transfer angers unnecessarily to partners due to their experiences with their parents, etc.
Please and please once more, divorce is not the ultimate or closing solution to marriage differences or distinctions. Couples should always seek for dialogues and be very much open to one another.
May God help us all, Amen!
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